as my wedding gets closer, the things that i thought would matter actually don’t at all. i wrote a list yday of what makes a man “marriage material”. i’m going to share it this week w you guys.
for those of you who don’t know, i was actually engaged before. it wasn’t an official proposal, he didn’t even get on one knee. however, going through this process again i can’t help but notice that 99% of the guys i dated weren’t even marriage material. BUT, I was ALWAYS dating to be married.
i would say what i’m going to share this week is the most authentic, raw, + conducive list of qualities that a man needs in a MARRIAGE for my women who actually want to be married. 💍
sᴄʀɪᴘᴛᴜʀᴇ therefore i want the men everywhere to pray, lifting up holy hands without anger or disputing. | first timothy 2:8
ᴀᴘᴘʟɪᴄᴀᴛɪᴏɴ a man being “the head of the household” meant that he covered his wife, his family, + his household in prayer with the authority given by God.
ᴡʜᴀᴛ ɪ ᴡᴀɴᴛᴇᴅ a man that prays + prays for me
ᴍᴀʀʀɪᴀɢᴇ ᴍᴀᴛᴇʀɪᴀʟ a man that walks in the spiritual authority given by God. He covers his wife daily in prayer; he also covers himself so that he may be aware of the tricks of the enemy coming against his family. He is able to hear + receive from the Lord regarding his day, his purpose, + how he should speak, act + think according to his calling.
ʏᴏᴜ sᴇᴇ ᴛʜᴇ ᴍᴀᴛᴇʀɪᴀʟ this man will not be easily distracted, he won’t be easily influenced, + he will learn more + more every day on how to love you better
ever since i could remember my parents pray together every morning around 4AM. they are not perfect, but i’m pretty sure that’s a success secret in their marriage of 20+ years.
i don’t just want a man that prays, i want a man that prays specifically on purpose in accordance w his mission in Christ. i know it may seem like the same thing but sis, it’s not!
i dated Christian men, in fact all of my ex’s are believers. i think that’s why i’m really seeing the difference nowadays.
in my relationships i was always the one w the stronger spiritual relationship. no wonder those men couldn’t lead me anywhere, + where they led me i did not want to go!
imagine a marriage where the man takes his place as the rightful HEAD of the family + marriage, bc he’s following God + the wife in you can recognize + respect that. that’s marriage material.
the one thing i wish i did more in my dating process was ask more questions! i always caught myself after the fact, like man! i should’ve asked him that a long time ago. if i had a daughter who was just starting out in the dating world these are some of the questions i would tell her to ask.
ғᴏʀ ᴄʟᴀʀɪᴛʏ i definitely feel led to tell you ladies that this week isn’t about do i go or do i stay? it’s not about is he the one for me or isn’t he? (we have had other topics like this, like 5 Indicators of a Soulmate)
this week is more about - in what ways can my relationship or future relationship elevate to marriage material. it’s more about how can we grow towards marriage + what aspects of a man would a marriage need in order to survive + thrive.
i wanted to make that clear distinction early on in the week🤍
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